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Note: The list below contains our best English openers. Need openers in Spanish, French, or German? to create custom lines in 15+ languages!

Beyond the Vanilla

Feeld is not for vague 'hey what's up' messages. It is a space for specific desires, ethical non-monogamy, and kink. Success here requires 'Radical Transparency'. You need to state what you want (and what you offer) clearly, while respecting the golden rule: Humans first, kinks second.

Direct & Desires (Transparency)

State your intent clearly. It filters out the wrong matches instantly.

"I read your bio and saw you are into [Kink]. That is a huge green flag for me."
Why it worksValidating their interests.
RatingStrength: High
"Your profile is exactly what I have been looking for. Are you open to discussing a [Specific Dynamic]?"
Why it worksClear intent.
RatingStrength: High
"I appreciate your honesty in your bio. I am looking for something similar. How is your search going?"
Why it worksSolidarity.
RatingStrength: Medium
"I saw you marked [Desire] as a desire. I would love to hear more about your experience with that."
Why it worksCuriosity + Desire.
RatingStrength: High
"You seem distinctively trouble. The good kind?"
Why it worksFlirty/Playful.
RatingStrength: Medium
"I am usually pretty shy, but your bio made me want to say hi immediately."
Why it worksVulnerable compliment.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Respectfully, your photos are stunning. And your bio seals the deal."
Why it worksRespectful thirst.
RatingStrength: High
"I see we match on [Interest]. I have been dying to try that with the right person."
Why it worksShared activity.
RatingStrength: High
"Honest question: What is the best opener you have received on here so far?"
Why it worksMeta-conversation.
RatingStrength: Low
"I am explicitly looking for [Dynamic]. Does that align with what you want right now?"
Why it worksRadical honesty.
RatingStrength: High

Couples & Poly Dynamics

Navigating the complexities of dating couples or polycules.

"Hi both! I love your dynamic. Who usually handles the chat here?"
Why it worksAddressing the unit.
RatingStrength: High
"Your profile says you date separately. Are you open to a chat, or is it strictly parallel?"
Why it worksClarifying terminology.
RatingStrength: High
"I have never dated a couple before, but you two seem incredibly un-intimidating. in a good way."
Why it worksHonest newbie vibe.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Question for [Name 1]: What is the most annoying thing [Name 2] does?"
Why it worksPlayful wedge (humor).
RatingStrength: Medium
"I see you are in an open relationship. How long have you been exploring ENM?"
Why it worksLifestyle question.
RatingStrength: Medium
"You two look like a power couple. What is your secret?"
Why it worksEgo stroke.
RatingStrength: Low
"I am looking for a [Dynamic] with a couple. Is that on the table for you?"
Why it worksDirect ask.
RatingStrength: High
"To the unicorn hunters: I am not a unicorn, but I am a very cool horse. Interested?"
Why it worksHumorous boundary.
RatingStrength: High
"I love that you are prioritizing [Value] in your relationship. That is rare."
Why it worksDeep compliment.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Hi! I matched with you, but I think you're both great. Any chance for a group chat?"
Why it worksInclusive.
RatingStrength: High

The 'Majestic' (Curiosity)

For when you want to learn more about them as humans, beyond the kinks.

"Your bio mentions [Niche Hobby]. I have always wanted to get into that. Any tips for a beginner?"
Why it worksGenuine interest.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Okay, the [Item] in your third photo. Story. Now."
Why it worksCommanding curiosity.
RatingStrength: Medium
"You have very 'Main Character' energy. What is your origin story?"
Why it worksFun framing.
RatingStrength: Low
"I see you are new to the city (according to bio). Found the best coffee spot yet?"
Why it worksLocal help.
RatingStrength: Low
"Your taste in [Music/Art] is impeccable. Do you work in the industry?"
Why it worksCompetence compliment.
RatingStrength: Medium
"What is one thing on your Feeld profile that isn't on your Tinder profile?"
Why it worksProvocative question.
RatingStrength: High
"You seem like you have good stories. What is the wildest thing you've done this year?"
Why it worksOpen-ended yarn.
RatingStrength: Medium
"I am curious about your [Tag]. What does that mean to you specifically?"
Why it worksClarifying definitions.
RatingStrength: High
"If we went for a drink, what is the one topic we should absolutely avoid?"
Why it worksReverse psychology.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Your vibe is very [Adjective]. I dig it."
Why it worksSimple validation.
RatingStrength: Low

Playful & Safe

Establishing safety and humor is key in the ENM/Kink space.

"I promise I am normal. Well, Feeld-normal."
Why it worksInsider joke.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Safe word is 'Pineapple'. Just so we are clear from the start."
Why it worksPlayful boundary setting.
RatingStrength: High
"I am here for the [Kink], but I will stay for the personality."
Why it worksWholesome twist.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Are we doing the mysterious cool thing, or can I just say I think you are hot?"
Why it worksBreaking the frame.
RatingStrength: High
"On a scale of 'Vanilla' to 'Spicy', where are we landing tonight?"
Why it worksCalibration.
RatingStrength: Medium
"I brought snacks. (Metaphorically. Unless you want actual snacks)."
Why it worksRandom humor.
RatingStrength: Low
"You look like you give good hugs. Am I wrong?"
Why it worksPhysical but sweet.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Is it too early to ask for your astrological sign, or is that a third date question?"
Why it worksStereotype play.
RatingStrength: Low
"I am technically working right now, but you are a very distracting notification."
Why it worksFlirty priority.
RatingStrength: Medium
"Let's skip the small talk. What brings you to this corner of the internet?"
Why it worksDirect opener.
RatingStrength: Medium

The Transparency Filter

In the vanilla world, you hide your quirks. On Feeld, you lead with them.

1. Radical Honesty

Listing your desires (even the niche ones) acts as a magnet for the right people and a repellent for the wrong ones. Be specific.

2. Consent is Sexy

Feeld culture values consent above all. Asking 'Is it okay if I ask about...?' is not a mood killer; it is a trust builder.

3. The 'Third' Dynamic

If you are approaching a couple, remember: you are entering an existing ecosystem. Treat the relationship with respect, but ensure your needs are met too.

How Our Feeld Opener Generator Works

Get a conversation-starting opener in just three simple steps.

Step 1: Add Profile Context

Use the tabs to paste their Feeld bio or upload a screenshot. The more context our AI has, the more personal the opener.

Step 2: Choose a Style & Generate

Select a tone like Funny or Witty, then hit "Generate Opener" to let our tool create the perfect first message.

Step 3: Copy & Start the Conversation

Your unique opener appears instantly. Click to copy, paste it into Feeld, and make a memorable first impression.

Why Our Feeld Openers Generator?

Stand out from the crowd and make a lasting first impression.

Alternative Relationships

AI trained for Feeld's open approach to non-traditional relationships and sexuality.

Judgment-Free Zone

Generate openers that respect diverse relationship styles, kinks, and sexual preferences.

Exploration-Friendly

Create conversation starters for people exploring their sexuality and relationship preferences.

Safe Space Communication

Openers that maintain Feeld's commitment to creating a safe, inclusive dating environment.

Frequently Asked Questions

Got questions? We've got answers.

A good Feeld opener is specific, respectful, and direct about desires. It references their specific tags or bio details to show you actually read it.

Address both of them if they share a profile ("Hi J & K!"). If they are dating separately, clarify who you are interested in or if you are open to both.

Yes, if their profile invites it. If they list a specific kink, asking "I see you are into X, I d love to hear more" is acceptable. Unsolicited crude messages are not.

Ethical Non-Monogamy. It covers open relationships, polyamory, and other consensual non-exclusive dynamics.

"What brings you to Feeld?" is the classic. Or "Are you exploring solo or with a partner?"

The "Majestic/Curiosity" ones yes. The "Direct & Desires" ones might be too intense for Tinder.

Be honest! "I am new to this side of the app" is a charming and honest way to start. Experienced users often enjoy guiding newbies.

Majestic is Feeld's premium membership. It often signals a more serious/invested user.

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